Every newly married couple has to reconcile the holiday traditions they grew up with. Probably the most difficult conflicts to negotiate are the mutually exclusive choices.
For example: To top the Christmas tree with an ornament or not? Diana and I took years to find an answer that pleased both of us.
I grew up in a family that always topped the Christmas tree with a star-shaped ornament. Diana, on the other hand, likes a Christmas tree without anything on the top branch.
Eventually she thought of an alternative that works for us. Now we put the tree-topping ornaments on my Hugos, not on the tree.